I believe everyone needs to have there heart broken at least once in there lives. I think it makes you a better person and you will be able to find out what you really want in life. I have had my heart broken a few times. Trust me I would not want anyone to go through that heartache but once I made it out of the pain. I look back now and realize that person just was not the one for me. I feel like going through that time made me a stronger person and I know what I want from a guy. Of course everyone grows apart, but I am talking about heartache that no one should go through. It is hard to explain but say you are totally in love with a person and dating them for over two years. The whole time you think that person is telling you the truth. Come to find out you are not the only person in there lives. They just told you what they thought you wanted to hear. I would much rather have someone tell me the truth than to be lied to. Now that I have made it passed that person I am grateful for the lesson I have learned. I will make sure in the future that I watch how that person treats there family. If they treat there parents with respect they will treat you the same. I love giving advice to my friends that are going through the same problems I just went through. Now I know a lot of people ask for others advice and than do what they want to do. But if we would just sit back and listen to what they have to say they might be correct. I never listened to my friends or my family when they told me to run. Oh how I wish I would have listened but I am better now for going through those hard times. Everyone makes mistakes but it is how we learn from those mistakes that make us a stronger person. I can finally say I am happier now than I ever have been. No I have not found my true person but I know that he is out there somewhere and when the timing is right he will show up. I am happy focusing on myself and my school. I am finally doing something for me for a change and not worrying about what other people think of me.
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Kammy,
ReplyDeleteI'm sure you have heard that saying that sometimes you have to kiss a lot of toads to find your prince charming. I think that is true. Believe me I dated some real losers before I met my husband and we are celebrating our 12th wedding anniversary tomorrow. You are right about seeing how they treat their family, especially their mother. My husband treats his mother with great respect and love and that is how he treats me too.
Kammy,
ReplyDeleteI am sure you have heard it before but I have been there 3 1/2 years and one day he was just gone, i had given up on love on finding someone who was capable of being with me, and then out of no where when i least expected it someone who i least expected it to be was there for everything and now hes my husband and soon to be father of our first baby, life is crazy but love is strong. Congratulations on your 12 years, were just starting out not even 6 months married yet.
I have been in the same situation. I was there for my ex through everything. His father died and I was there, when he was in and out of the hospital I was there, for 2 years. Then one day I get a phone call about him cheating on me, from the girls boyfriend. It is weird how that all works out, but I knew that he wasn't the one for me. He never had any respect for his mom and he wanted to be exactly like his dad, which I might say wasn't the best choice. Then I met another guy and we were completely happy, or so I thought, then he moved and his "real" personality came out, so I too believe that you have to have your heart broken to find that right person for you.
ReplyDeleteBroken hearts hurt in a way that is indescribable. I too can say that I have been hurt twice, once in a marriage and the other in a committed relationship, well at least on my part. After reading the other blogs posted on here is sounds familiar, I was told everything I wanted to hear by this man and he was a player. It just stinks how some men know what to say and how to play women, and ladies we are going to have to get a little tougher and smarter so they can not do this to us anymore! I don't know if I completely believe that you have to be hurt before you can find true love, I say this because I do know of several friends of mine that have. I think that having your heart ripped out or broken makes you appreciate someone that won't do that to you more. Looking back on my broken hearts, basically the result of my bad choices. Be picky and stick to your standards and morals, don't settle.
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